Love (‘n aanhaling geneem uit The Road Less Travelled)
Love requires cathexis for a beginning. We
can love only that which in one way or another has importance for us. But with
cathexis there is always the risk of loss or rejection. If jou move out to
another human being, there is always the risk that that person wil move away
from you, leaving you more painfully alone than you were before. Love anything
that lives – a person, a pet, a plant – and it will die. Trust anybody and jou
may be hurt; depend on anyone and that one may let jou down. The price of
cathexis is pain. If someone is determined not to risk pain, then such a person
must do without many things; having children, getting married, the exstasy of
sex, the hope of ambition, friendship – all that makes life alive, meaningful
and significant. Move out or grow in any dimention and pain as well as joy will
be your reward. A full life will be full of pain. But the only alternative is
not to live fully.
Goed,
om ten volle te leef stel ‘n mens bloot aan vreugde sowel as leed. Geniet die
vreugde; aanvaar die leed en vergewe. Leed het ‘n doel en vergifnis is
reinigend, maar nie noodwendig pynstillend nie.
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